Decision Making

I believe what distinguished successful people from those who are not successful is the ability to make good decisions. That inability is why people run helter skelter. If you know what you want and the opportunity comes up, how do you know how to proceed especially if your decision has the potential to make or mar you or at least affect you for a long time. 

The worst things you can work with when making a decision is getting your emotions or ego involved. This muddles up all logic and you find yourself chasing what does not belong to you when something better has presented itself. The question is why does this happen so often and how do you mitigate it. I have had my fair share of bad decisions and each time, they were supposed to be great opportunities for major change that I had been craving in my life. This opportunities are usually coated with some kind of discomfort which affects your pride. So you are stuck with deciding what is more important. Also, I noticed that a moment wasted in indecisiveness usually results in a loss of the "opportunity". Also, you get advise from nay sayers because you opened yourself to it by not knowing what is good for you, thanks to your pride most of the time. Before you realize what is going on, you are chasing after the missed train. You learned but by the time the next big opportunity comes along, you have forgotten what happened and So you rinse, repeat, rinse repeat. 

I remember the story of my elder sister who got an interview with my elder brother, her own younger brother. The story goes that, he told her to go ahead to take the job. He told them to take him and SHE ACCEPTED! They were actually half siblings and she didn't think it beneath her to acquiesce. She is currently the most successful person in our family now. Nobody cares about that story. The story thins in comparison to how far she has come. 

May God help me. I know if it was me, i would have seen only the problems in this and not the opportunity. I would have been engulfed in the ego part of it. 

It is important that you have your priorities in check. The smart man will take opportunities from his enemy and turn it into something unprecedented. The foolish man will see such an opportunity and throw it away while seeking a "waste of time over and over again". 

I noticed my sister always ran to enter buses and I always wondered why, we would talk about it often until it finally clicked. You can only guarantee the bus that has arrived and not the one that is still on its ways. If you hop on and see you dont like it, you can always hop out. But if you miss it, and once gone you better not bother yourself chasing after it. So I noticed I had spent my life waiting or chasing after vehicles that hadnt even arrived while one is arriving. Because i feel I can wait for the "next" one. I finally got it. Anybody can succeed in life. But what is success. Making judicious use of opportunities. Dont wait for the perfect time. And dont chase or knock on a closed door. Move on and focus on open doors!

The take away is that what you see is all you can count on. Living or waiting for the next best thing especially when presented with an opportunity is the greatest mistake in this world. The world is ruled by opportunities and those who take them. Like the 2 who got varying talents in the bible and the one who got the most made the most use of it while the one who got less became blinded by ego and lost a hundred fold. A continuous waste of opportunity is the worst way to live life. Don't go around chasing what you don't have to the detriment of what has presented itself to you. You lose more when you don't take opportunities especially when you have stupidly involved your silly ego. Sometimes, you feel like you are being pulled in opposite direction. You must take the chance that offers you a change and if you dont like it, you can always jump ship. Also, dont throw away what you have for what isn't sure. Focus more on the things you can control and dont bother your head about controlling things you shouldn't even be worried about. The only way to maintain your ego and pride is when you are doing well. Not before. 

Remember, opportunities knock but once. Say YES!!! Every time!!! 

God bless. 

Be wise!